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FACTS FOR THE MARRIED PLAIN FACTS ON SEX HYGIENE CONFIDENTIAL CHATS WITH BOYS CONFIDENTIAL CHATS WITH GIRLS
Author of “Plain Facts on Sex Hygiene,” “Confidential Chats with Girls,” “Facts for the Married”
V. NIGHT EMISSIONS AND THE BOY’S WORRY 79
VI. SELF-ABUSE――HOW TO STOP IT――THE QUACKS 95
VII. YOUR VOCATION AND HOW TO FIT YOURSELF FOR IT 124
VIII. ENVIRONMENTS AND DISEASES WHICH RUST BRAIN-TOOLS 138
These chats are the pleasurable results of the many little confidential ones I have given at boys’ and young men’s clubs and at preparatory schools.
It has been my fortune――for so I consider it――to have been brought into intimate relations with men who are failures. Not the down and out men, but those who are struggling along dissatisfied with what they are doing――what false and wrong training has forced them to do.
Many of these despondent and useless men have been guided into places where they fit――where there is conservation of energy, happiness and results. These are the factors for a mentally and physically balanced man――provided he has had early instruction in some vital matters.
The impulse to have the future fathers in a position to guide and live in close confidential relations with their sons, is the reason for this book.
Professional experience has proven to my complete satisfaction that the many failures, misfits, despondents and diseased in our present generation were not fundamentally ill fitted to battle with life, but that they had never been started right, physically, mentally, vocationally.
Physical instructors built muscle, teachers forced much useful and also useless stuff into unwilling brain cells, fathers furnished the money――as a rule I find that this latter was about all the parents did furnish; and thought this all-sufficient.
The results have been deplorable. Wasted energies, disgust for study in lines that never appealed, misdirected powers, and exhausted vigor is what I have daily seen for twenty-five years.
And most of these conditions are avoidable.
How frequently have I heard the remark, after explaining to a young man who came to me a complete failure: “Why didn’t my father see all this?” or “I wanted to do that, Doctor, but they said that I didn’t know my own mind; so they made me study things that I hated.” Then the vital facts which every boy should early have confidentially and chummily told him:――“Oh, Doctor, if I had only known these things ten years ago! What a different man I would be to-day!”