Jasmina Alić-Zec and Siniša Zec met through Facebook. By the end of their first coffee date, which lasted for five or six hours, they realized they have a lot in common, from their clothing style to the kind of music they listen to and their love for nature. Although society defines them as Bosniak and Croat, they don’t identify that way. Their different ethnic backgrounds did not stand in the way of their love story, which culminated with their marriage in Tuzla, where they now live with their daughter Iris. Siniša’s first message to Jasmina was “Hello.” Jasmina, having already heard from a relative how kind and wonderful he was, replied. They arrived at their first date dressed almost identically. “Both of us wore red converse sneakers and jeans,” recalled Jasmina, emphasizing how much she and Siniša have in common, including their likes and dislikes. One of the things they share is a love for nature, and Jasmina describes how they can spend all day or night outdoors, talking about nature, or looking at photos. This is why they use almost every weekend to connect with nature. “When certain things click, there’s not much more to think about,” said Siniša, describing his love with Jasmina, who he characterizes as an amazing and emotionally sensitive young women who is very caring and requires little to be happy. Describing her husband, Jasmina says that he’s not a typical “Balkan man” in terms of his mentality. He is very dedicated and hardworking, and at the same time very intimate and close to his family. “At first, he seems rough, macho, but he’s so kind—a great parent. He changes diapers, bathes the baby, and she’s a real daddy’s girl,” Jasmina remarks. Jasmina was born in Tuzla and earned her degree in technology, while Siniša was born in Sarajevo and works in graphic design. When they met, they didn’t care about their ethnic differences because they had both been raised in families where they were taught that the only thing that matters is whether or not a person is good. Jasmina quoted her parents: “If it’s good for you and if it’s your choice and if it’s what you need, want, go ahead. It doesn’t matter whether someone is a Muslim, a Serb, a Catholic, a Bosniak, a foreigner, whatever they are, as long as they’re a good person.” When their daughter was born and they applied for her birth certificate, they were completely taken aback by the clerk’s question: “And how does the baby declare itself?” Jasmina and Siniša live in Tuzla, where, as she describes, multi-ethnic couples are viewed a little differently. “We’re used to it, my group friend consists of Darija, Vlasta, Nikolina, Jadranka, Ljubica, Marin, and Tea. We don’t care who you are, and I have a lot of friends from mixed marriages because it’s totally irrelevant to people,” said Jasmina. Jasmina finds it fascinating that young people who are born in 2000 are arguing about the war on Facebook, and in her opinion, this shows that they had to learn this behavior at home. “It’s simply not a topic for us. We celebrate Easter, Christmas, and Eid. It’s more of an occasion for us all to get together and have a good time,” Jasmina continued. When asked about the effect of politics on the perception of multi-ethnic relationships and marriages, Jasmina replied that it’s not in politicians’ interests to promote diversity and the things that unite people, culturally and in every other sense. She believes that it’s more convenient for them if people are divided rather than caring towards each other or inclined to help and take care of one another. The more people are cut off from each other, the more alienated they are from one another, the better off the politicians are. “Every time you don’t know what to do, what kind of economic plan or socioeconomic reform to implement, how to save the economy or improve health care, then you just have to start talking about the secession of the RS (Republika Srpska), joining Serbia, or possibly Herceg-Bosnia. And then there’s the SDA (Democratic Action Party), they’ll say that they’re the pillar of the state, they’re building Bosnia, the Federation… Sabers start rattling. So many years after the war, the themes of the war come right back. And we’re all toiling to earn minimum wage,” explains Jasmina. Siniša doesn’t think that things will ever get better in Bosnia and Herzegovina: “When you look through history, there’s never been good times, that’s the kind of people we are.” “How much our salaries are, how, for example, diapers are more expensive in Bosnia than in Germany…these are things that bother me more than the ethnic, national, religious context,” added Jasmina. They celebrate every holiday and never miss out on any delicious cuisine.