I can never forget the scene when one of our graduates, after having charge of over thirty cases of typhoid fever among some orphan children, and we had to lose one, whom she had nursed as faithfully and tenderly as its own mother could have done, how, when she had done her all and death claimed him, there were tears shed for one who had no mother to shed them. And it was due largely to her unremitting faithfulness that we were able to record but two deaths in thirty-three cases. That woman has not had an idle day to my knowledge in several years.
When any unexpected emergency arises, which to your educated eye teaches you that your patient is in extreme danger, do not alarm the friends unnecessarily; try not to show in your voice or conduct that you are demoralized and have lost courage. While doing the best you can (until the arrival of the physician, whom it was your first duty to have summoned), encourage those around you, and keep them busy if you can, as, unless they are occupied, the coming of the physician will seem to them unreasonably delayed, even though he be at hand when called. Above all, do not let every physician within reach be sent for, unless the situation is one of great urgency, as I believe many patients have been frightened to death by the demoralization of solicitous friends.
If you can show yourself capable and maintain your own composure of mind, you will be able in nearly every instance to avert a panic, and in many cases prevent disastrous results to your patient. But if you fail at times for want of proper courage, do not give up with a feeling that you are unequal to emergencies, only be the more determined not to show the white feather again.
It is a well known fact to military men, that veteran troops who have stood the brunt of the fight in many a battle, become demoralized unexpectedly and retreat, to the utter surprise of their officers. But in their next battle their courage and deeds of prowess again surprise every one. So be it with you.
In the sick-room nothing so distresses the helpless sufferer as a want of frankness on the part of the attendant. You may refuse or neglect to answer, or turn the subject if possible, but never tell what are called “white lies.” One lie always requires another to cover it, and sooner or later you will be caught. If it is not best to tell, say outright it is better for me not to answer that question; or it may be the least of two evils to answer it faithfully as patients often imagine that things are far worse than they are. I believe that we of the medical profession often err in withholding from patients that which it is best in the end that they should know. This is one of our most difficult lines to draw.